Life's Lessons

I have made many mistakes in my life. Though to look at them as mistakes would be wrong. For without the knowledge that you gain from mistakes you are just bound to do the same thing again.

Pain and hurt are feelings for a reason. If you felt no pain or hurt how would you stop yourself from destroying the very thing that is in Pain. Example: If you hold your hand to a fire how many times would it take to learn not to burn yourself?

The same thing goes for emotional pain. If you don’t realize what it is that is burning you how many times will it take before your heart dies?

You see what happens when you see a bitter Older Man or Woman that seems angry at the world and just likes to cause problems. Those people have hurt themselves over and over by seeing the pretty lights of the fire and believing that this time it won’t burn them. Yet every time it does.

I have been in my fair share of bad relationships. Yet I have learned one thing from all the bad ones. Everything I know I don’t want in the next person. People will treat you how YOU allow them to treat you.

If you justify in your head that one Name that you have been called is OK. Then he will call you that name simply because he can. If just one hit was ok then he will do it again. People love to push our boundaries. It is our rebellious nature. Women tend to look at things from a more “mothering” view. “Enough time and love he will see or feel that things or he could be different.” Men can only change when they are ready. At some point you get tired enough and say “Hey I don’t have the time or energy to fix your problems.”

If when going into a new relationship you say these are the things I will NOT tolerate:

1. Name Calling

2. Abuse

3. Abandonment

4. Cheating

5. ETC

They will figure out in their mind if they have the time or energy to please YOU. Not you pleasing them. Cause do you really have time to cater to them in hopes that they will treat you right?

Another thing that I hold on tight to is my appearance. Not necessarily my physical one but the way I present myself. I have always been a little more of a Tomboy then most. I am not into chick flicks or frilly girl things. I like action and suspense and sci-fi. I used to cuss every other word until one person said that they do not see me as a girl and that being with me made him feel gay. That the way I talk and walk and sit was very unattractive. I grew up quick. I started observing others around me. And realized that there is a Big difference between Ladies and women. If you present yourself with dignity and respect others will treat you that way. These are some of the rules that I follow:

A lady should always walk in an easy, unassuming manner, neither looking left nor right. If anything in a store window attracts her attention, she may stop and examine it, and then continue her walk.

A lady does not giggle or whisper in public. Talking loudly is "inexcusable" at all times and gives a vulgar tone to all that is said. She does not call her friends across the street or ask of their health in a boisterous manner.

Never "cut" a person in public. If there are reasons you wish to discontinue the acquaintance turn your head before meeting. Do not expose anyone to the humiliation of a cold and rude stare or refuse to return the greeting of one made in the presence of others.

When bowing on the street, the lady should merely incline her head gracefully, never her body. She should also smile pleasantly.

She must never let a male talk to her in a slangy manner, touch her on the shoulder or call her by her first name in front of strangers.

Most Important, A lady will refrain from using words that will degrade herself or others. To use such words shows that you are uneducated enough to come up with more creative words and are resulted to use those words of unoriginality. To use such words would only make your appearance to be of those of “lower class”.