A friend called me today in reference to a problem that he was having. Apparently he met a girl about 4 days ago. She wants a relationship and she wanted to “save herself for someone special” Well apparently you can now figure out if someone is special in 4 days. Well I guess she came to that conculsion as she gave herself to him. So now she is pressuring him into a relationship with guilt. Like I have made reference to in the past, I have had many
interesting, yet educational relationships. I have learned that when you are young your hormones have a way of giving you a high with the excitement of someone new. That high sustains the faster you go with this new person. You hold on to this high and loosing them is an incredible loss. You feel desolate, lost in a world without them. And a certain missing link in the chain. These are signs of addiction. The sadness and depression is a sign of withdrawal. And most people reach out for someone new to replace that high. This is common in the medical field as replacing one addiction for another to reduce the effects of the withdrawal symptoms. I don’t think that people were thinking about this as psychotic behavior when doing it. Just being ruled by some unseen force to do things they can’t truly understand. I did a Google on these definitions. Let me know if you think I should add any more on this:
stalk2 (stôk) v., stalked, stalk·ing, stalks.
1. To pursue by tracking stealthily.
2. To follow or observe (a person) persistently, especially out of obsession or derangement.
3. To go through (an area) in pursuit of prey or quarry.
Addiction
1. Compulsive physiological and psychological need for a habit-forming substance: a drug used in the treatment of heroin addiction.
2. An instance of this: a person with multiple chemical addictions.
3. The condition of being habitually or compulsively occupied with or involved in something.
Obsession
1. Compulsive preoccupation with a fixed idea or an unwanted feeling or emotion, often accompanied by symptoms of anxiety.
2. A compulsive, often unreasonable idea or emotion.
So to my observation and self experience you cannot make a decision that this is someone you want to be with in 4 days. I think that it at least should take a month do decide if this person is healthy and someone truly worth your time. You cannot be “in love” in a month. Love takes a while I would say probably 3 months to make a real decision. So to say or feel an emotion is really not defined as love. Love in and of it self is another entry that I may get into one day but not today. I think that once people realize that they have these characteristics and how close this feeling is to addiction then we can move on and make a more educated decision. I just wonder if people are unable to decipher this, what the world will become. I guess to the healthy people in the world recognizing this ahead of time will eliminate unneeded drama in our lives.
